Disappointment

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Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations. It is similar to regret which focuses primarily on personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself.

Recently I experienced major disappointment accompanied by loss and a heavy heart.  After a few months of hearth ache and suffering, I said, ‘enough’! I read a few articles and quotes online, I analysed my situation and found the root of my disappointment: I made this person into my soulmate. All these years, I subconsciously created expectations of him and even branded him as ‘the one’. Unfortunately the soulmate turned out to be somebody else. I then blamed him for my disappointment which led me into a world of pain and frustration, denial and you name it.

The story continues… I got to understand that behind all my disappointments are my own desires, only I can fulfil. These desires are within me, I need to acknowledge them and make them conscious. How do I do that? By taking the time to listen to my needs and writing them down. Taking a stand to own them and turn them into reality.

Our disappointments strengthen our humanity and we are responsible for our own changes and results in our lives. Blaming someone else for our disappointments are weak, wrong and very painful. Taking the responsibility to own our disappointments and forgive those who have hurt us including ourselves, will release us and others from our pain.

After all, it was me who created that expectation of someone to fulfil my needs! How silly of me 😉

True Love

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We all know this beautiful fairytale of that day we’ll meet our true love who’ll sweep us off our feet and take us away where we’ll live happily ever after. Well, most of us have this dream and still do. Our longing for true love is there and we yearn for that special someone, just for us.

Before we find true love, loving oneself seems like the obvious thing to do. It’s impossible to love someone else, if the feeling of love is not within ourselves first.

Today, finding true love has become a full-time search in our modern society. Keeping or maintaining your true love is even harder. How come? What do we wrong?

There is an old saying: ”Truly loving someone is setting them free.”

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We all know we can never own someone else, but we still do that. It is impossible, and this is where we go wrong. Living this fact of knowing we can never own our loved ones, that’s exactly the time we set them free. When this happens, a natural feeling of want arises for our loved ones. We will make any effort to love them and impress them. We will be creative, with a lightness in our step and a happy smile on our face.

As humans we tend to want that what we can’t have. Setting them free does not mean we must let go of them, it means we create a space in our mind and hearts for an unattached love.