What Is My Relationship To Life?

My relationship to life is to live life to the fullest and collect as many positive impressions in my mind and heart. I try to achieve this by learning and sharing from past mistakes, from present challenges and opportunities. I associate my life with developing compassion, expanding knowledge and deepening my spirituality. Being alive in today’s world, my relationship to life embrace flexibility, technology, surprises, adventure and love.

Occasionally my actions conflict with my relationship to life. This is then the exact moment when I become unbalanced and unhappy. Normally just writing in my journal supports me with clarity and the right plan of action.

For example, I’m invited to a party but I know if I go, I won’t get time to reach my report deadlines. These reports can support me with a flexible life one day. However that one-day is still far away in the future and the party is so close in the present. So the obvious thing to do is to go the party, right? I decide to go, have loads of fun but the next day stress arrives on my doorstep, maybe with a hangover and even some guilt…

Lesson learned: even if I reach my deadlines hastily, not putting my needs first in accordance to my relationship to life was in fact, a wrong move. Damn! 😉


What Would You Do Differently If You Knew Nobody Would Judge You?

What would I do differently if I knew nobody would judge me? I would walk up to each living person, look him or her in the eye and say: “I love you”.

I participated in one of those empowering workshops and did an exercise where we had to walk up to each person (complete strangers at the time!) and look them in the eye, hold the contact and then slowly say with meaning: “I love you”.

Boy, was this exercise difficult! Some were laughing thinking it’s a joke, others were in a kind of strange silence (that was me) and a few were just doing as they’re told. At one point I noticed a feeling of openness and gradually I was beginning to enjoy giving love to complete strangers as well as receiving it. It felt really good and even I was fighting back the tears. Upon completion, we held hands and shared our experiences. The entire group felt immense love, compassion, forgiveness, letting go and gratitude!

In break time, I observed the crowd and what I saw was really beautiful: Everyone was present to everyone else’s needs. For the first time I experienced an environment of total unity, serenity and love. And this was with complete strangers!

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? 😉

Try a Cliché


A cliché is an overused expression or an idea of just about anything. It can also be a person or character whose behavior is predictable or superficial. Cliché’s surrounds us, is everywhere and in almost everything! But what the big fuss?

I cut cliché’s out my life, period. It robs me from authenticity. It is bland and freezes my brain as it lacks intellectual conversation and content. It is stagnant and smells. I am sorry, I had a bad experience with cliché’s and it does not serve me or my future!

The best way to get rid of cliché’s is being more informative, creative and descriptive. When you experience the same old drama of cliché’s – such as saying: ‘’I think it was love at first sight!’….instead rather ask yourself: ‘what made me feel that way when I was with my lover or when I think of my lover…..’ Then name those feelings and go into detail how you felt. You will get a better understanding of the love you have within yourself and most of the time, that love is not from the person you felt it from. That love is within you and belongs to you!

We tend to always think ‘from the outside’. Our outer conditions determine our mood and happiness depend on the weather for example….but little do we know if we can create an awareness of what is going on inside of us and acknowledge it, we will notice the immense love we have within ourselves, for ourselves! And we definitely don’t need the weather to make our day or any lover to say the least!

Anyway, this is me trying to share my experience of trying out cliché’s. Next time you hear anyone mentioning cliché’s do yourself a favor and set an example! 😉

Feelings Follow Behaviour

What kind of life do you want..? You have this choice, everyone does. No matter how rich or poor, we all have this choice.
When we were babies our parents/surrogates nurtured and loved us and this was the birth of our emotions. Growing up as fearless toddlers expressing ourselves freely and publicly. We were told to behave in certain ways, and sometimes even slapped or scolded if we disobeyed. We learned our parents/surrogates’ emotional patterns, whether positive or negative and made our way into this world: ‘beautifully conditioned by our parents.’
We should understand that our parents/surrogates taught us what they knew and showed us their own conditioned experiences. They did not know better and continued these inherited patterns subconsciously. Whether we told ourselves we will be like thembetter than them or completely different to them, the truth is these learned emotional behaviours control us like windup wooden dolls. Unless we learn our own new emotional behavioural patterns, we will never be free.
How do we learn new behaviour?
By understanding these old behavioural patterns we then have the awareness of how to get rid of them. Once we are rid of them, we can then learn new ones by creating new behavioural patterns. Emotions and feelings follow behaviour which follow results.
Check out what life you want to live, create that life by being conscious and aware of your behaviour and in touch with your own feelings and emotions. You can attend courses that deal with these kind of issues such as the Hoffman Process that I highly recommend and completed myself: www.hoffmanprocess.co.uk

Stand By You

Standing by someone is beautiful and part of humanity. We support one another out of love and respect. We are there for our friends and partners in good times and in bad times. No matter what happens, we want to stand by our loved ones. Right?

What does it mean to be there for someone? It means offering your loving support to someone else without expecting anything in return. This is possible if you have learned to love yourself, unconditionally.

Here’s why: Anything you offer in the world, must live within yourself first. Otherwise you cannot give to the ‘outer’. You might think you can but then its based on a need for yourself. A need that you subconsciously feel the ‘outer’ should fulfill through your own expectation. At the end, you will be the disappointed one.

Loving yourself enough not to give your own power away when standing by someone means allowing others to freely express themselves, without judgement. A good way is to detach yourself from the results of your needs and others with 100% awareness and to listen to yourself and others. Offer your advice only when asked. Do so entirely without expecting anything in return from any friendship.

Practice this with your children, family members, friends, etc 🙂 Oh and do listen to this wonderful song that inspired me to write this blog!  I’ll Stand by You by the Pretenders ://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maAyfcO-X3k

It’s a Poor Idea to Lie to Yourself

When you make a false statement with a deliberate intent to deceive, that is when you lie. You plant a tiny seed of deception that will manifest some way or another in your life and usually accompanied by suffering and pain.

When you lie to someone you automatically lie to yourself. At a recent party, I lied to a stranger about who I was. The next day I felt immense guilt from my poor actions.Why did I do that? Too much alcohol? After feeling sorry for myself, I looked at the reasons why I lied.

The root of the problem: ‘I was not proud of myself.’ This made me very sad and insecure. A couple of days later, I made the effort to really get to know myself by enrolling in a weekend workshop. The results were amazing!

The act of lying and its consequences are inevitable. It will catch up with you if you don’t make amends now.  Lying equals not trusting and loving yourself enough, to tell the truth. 

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We Are What We Do

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Most of us know we are that what we do, what we eat, what we say, etc. This is so powerful! A powerful gift for a powerful life. Why don’t we integrate this wonderful gift into our lives and use it to create an abundant, rich, joyful and most loving life? We have the power to be whatever we want to be, to choose anything we want. Why do we still complain and live unhappy lives?

The secret: ‘‘With great power comes great responsibility.’’

I heard this phrase in the movie Spiderman. It touched my heart and I consciously made the commitment to follow it. I  know that if I want to succeed I need to act and be the success I want. If I want to be happy, I need to be the happiness. If I want to have fun at a party, I need to be the fun! Yay!!

Like Ghandi said: ‘’Be the change you want to see in your world’’ …..Fantastic!!

Try it, and you will feel this power inside you. How do you do this? You need to listen to yourself, make a couple of notes of what you want in your lives, what changes you want to see. And work down your list, one by one. Make mistakes, allow failure as it will show you where to focus. And ask for feedback from people who loves you. Take a stand, it is so worth it.

You will see, you will have a natural glow that will radiate all over you and your aura. You will take responsibility for your own happiness and changes without feeling guilty. And only then, people will come to you and they will want the same. That is the perfect time that you can help them, without convincing anyone and effortlessly 🙂

Fish Falling from the Sky

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A fish falling from the sky is a magical thing. An absolute miraculous occasion. But how often does this happen? Is it even possible? There is this saying: ”There is plenty of fishes in the sea.” Plenty for everyone which makes me think of love and I think astrology, the star sign Pisces.

I am a communicative, humorous and airy Gemini who often attracts the slippery, romantic Piscean who loves’ swimming’ away to sort out their life issues and need consistent affirmation on how wonderful they are. Give them their space, and they enthusiastically return with an energy Gemini’s simply can’t resist. This leads me to my next question: ‘‘Are Gemini’s and Pisceans the perfect match?’’
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According to the astrology compatibility scale, the passion quotient is high between Gemini’s and Pisceans, and so are the conflicts. Emotional, sensitive Piscean is too easily hurt by thoughtless, playful Gemini. Each practices deception in his or her own way: Gemini dissembles, Piscean won’t deal with reality. They are in fact, extreme opposites.

Gemini’s and Pisceans are a perfect match! So opposites do attract just like Yin & Yang, hot and cold, right and left, boy and girl….makes sense. And what does my story have to do with a fish falling from the sky? I leave it up to your imagination 🙂