New Beginnings

“Everything that has a beginning has an ending. Make your peace with that and all will be well” – Buddha 

New beginnings, what does this mean for you?

It happened during my travels in Thailand when I closed the door to my past, a past that used to be my life, my everything. It was the hardest thing to do and took around 13 months! Now when I look back, I realized that I had to go through this breakdown as it created the woman I am today.

I decided a life of new beginnings because the obvious was in front of me: to live or to go down. I won’t go into detail as I’m sure you know what I mean. So for the sake of my loved ones, my health and my future, I decided to LIVE AGAIN!

Today, I’m still in the transition period between old and new. Sometimes accompanied by pain and disappointment, lately more excitement! I look forward to walking through the door leading to the next stage of my life, where the light shines through and where flowers are blooming just for me. I promise myself to live a conscious life, take that what I’ve learnt from my past and make this new phase in my life the very best one! Bearing always in mind that everything eventually has an end.

The most important lesson learned: “The condition of my personal relationships, is a direct reflection of my degree of self-love.” 

This post is dedicated to my family and friends who supported me through the most difficult time in my life. Thank you 🙂

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Mom and Me

I never thought my mom and I would get this close. As a child it felt like she hated me, that she was never proud of my achievements and never gave me physical affection.

When I left home in my early twenties, I invited mom over to spend the weekend with me in the city.  She inspected my little habitat without saying a word and then continued towards the kitchen. After we had some lovely tea and cake, I felt now was the time for me to open up and look my mom in the eye, to talk to her not as my mom but like to another woman. I felt the time had come that she knows my truth.

I muttered nervously ahead that despite our indifference during my upbringing, I somehow felt that she loved me. I understood at some point that it must have been hard for her given the fact that her mom had to give her away as a little child. I told her that I realized how lucky I was that I had my biological mom to raise me and to give me everything that she could at the time; even if there wasn’t  much affection towards the words I love you or hugging.Regardless of it all, I knew that she loved me anyway. After a minute or so, she burst out in tears and then said that it was true, she always loved me and always will.

Since then we’re inseparable and share amazing journeys of fun, laughter, tears and adventure. Today my mom is openly expressing her love to my daughter and me. Both share an amazing bond of love and affection. It is such an inspiring relationship of three women who are beautifully developing and loving each other, unconditionally.

mom and me


Being Mindful…

A few weeks ago I experienced a lot of busy-ness as I was preparing for my finals and sorting out my little daughter. My mind was full of calculations, strategies, assessments, thesis and reports. I had to make a change, and found this wonderful information that supported me:

  1. Stop multi-tasking: when you eat, you eat. When you walk, you walk.
  2. Take your time: make your actions deliberate
  3. Do less by prioritizing: it is all a matter of what is important and letting go of what is not.
  4. Plan your schedule and leave enough space between tasks: it takes away stress and gives you a break.
  5. Sit in silence: only 5 minutes of silence and breathing will do you, your thoughts and your body very good.
  6. Focus on the present: stop worrying about the future, or outcomes. Let it go and focus on what you do now.
  7. Be present: listen and talk to others by being completely in the now
  8. Eat to enjoy: savor your food and eat slowly. You deserve this break and take time to digest.
  9. Live your life: savor your life and slow down. Enjoy each and every moment even the stressful ones with deadlines and tasks.
  10. Meditating house chores: put cooking and cleaning into practice of mindfulness. Be present to every task you do and watch your thoughts then change your thought patterns consciously.

During this time I learned a lot about myself, my thought patterns and my insecurities especially on my incapabilities of what I’m currently doing. In fact, if I look at the events now, I am grateful for the challenges because I could locate these habitual patterns that kept me sort of ‘stuck’ in life. Practicing the above will not only support me in achieving that what I want but it will benefit me in the long run to living a mindful, stress-free and productive life. Try it 🙂

Alexander the Great

Alexander The Great by Kirsi Salonen

……….On his death bed, Alexander summoned his generals and told them his 3 final wishes:

1. The best doctors should carry his coffin

2. The wealth he has accumulated (money, gold, precious stones…) should be scattered along the procession to the cemetery, and

3. His hands should be let loose, hanging outside the coffin for all to see!!

One of his generals, surprised by these unusual requests asked Alexander to explain.

Here is what Alexander the Great had to say:

I want the best doctors to carry my coffin to demonstrate that, in the face of death, even the best doctors in the world have no power to heal…

I want the road to be covered with my treasure so that everybody sees that material wealth acquired on earth, stays on earth…

I want my hands to swing in the wind, so that people understand that we come to this world empty-handed and we leave this world empty-handed after the most precious treasure of all is exhausted, and that is TIME.

The lesson for life:

We do not take to our grave any material wealth, although our good deeds can be our travelers’ cheques.

TIME is our most precious treasure because it is LIMITED.

We can produce more wealth, but we cannot produce more TIME.

When we give someone our TIME, we actually give a portion of our life that we will never take back.

Our TIME is our life!

The best present we can give others and ourselves is TIME.

May we have plenty of TIME and may we all have the wisdom to give it away and LIVE until our TIME has come.


Do You Celebrate The Things You Do Have?

I find that being in a state of gratefulness allows me to really put things into perspective: I may not have everything I want but I always have everything I need.

Often life throws me ‘gratefulness’ reminders, especially when things are not going as planned. That is the time to celebrate who I am, what I am and what I have. When I feel like complaining, it’s the perfect opportunity to realize that despite my present misery, I do have a good life and that I am lucky to be born when, where and to whom.

Of course there are times I’m unaware, but that is what makes me human. Sometimes its okay to complain and just be. As long as I am aware of the big picture and of my innate being which expresses a constant, subtle and general happiness.

When we chase happiness it tends to fly away like a butterfly, moving further away each time we grab for it. When we recognize gratitude and celebrate a realistic reality of it, we’ll find happiness landing directly on our shoulders  J



How Old Would You Be If You Didn’t Know How Old You Are?



Imagine we didn’t have age and we celebrated birthdays like most of us celebrate Christmas: lots of presents, happy-happy family and friends with loads to eat and drink! However we do live in a complicated world with unfair rules, that often control and manipulate the way we tend to view age and numbers.

This is what age means, scientifically: “Aging is the process of growing old chronologically. Old age is a usual process of life that occurs to everyone. A person is called old on the grounds of this chronological age. In reality, it is the functional state of a living organism, meaning the biological age that decides the aging process of a person. Aging is a period of numerous illnesses and common disability. In addition to an increased level of illness, the aging process itself shows the way to certain disabilities such as low vision and loss of sight resulting from cataracts, deafness resulting from nerve destruction, loss of mobility from arthritis and a common inability to care for oneself. There are several types of physical appearance that give useful clues to aging…”

We as human beings experience the unavoidable process of old age. To live in acceptance of our aging process, not only means we loose our fear of it, we are also setting us ‘free’ from our destined circumstance. In the end, it really doesn’t matter what ‘age number’ we are. It is all about how old we feel on a physical and mental state with regards to our own aging process.

Ask yourself that question today, inspect your outer and inner being carefully and see what is your true age. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?


Fish Falling from the Sky


A fish falling from the sky is a magical thing. An absolute miraculous occasion. But how often does this happen? Is it even possible? There is this saying: ”There is plenty of fishes in the sea.” Plenty for everyone which makes me think of love and I think astrology, the star sign Pisces.

I am a communicative, humorous and airy Gemini who often attracts the slippery, romantic Piscean who loves’ swimming’ away to sort out their life issues and need consistent affirmation on how wonderful they are. Give them their space, and they enthusiastically return with an energy Gemini’s simply can’t resist. This leads me to my next question: ‘‘Are Gemini’s and Pisceans the perfect match?’’

According to the astrology compatibility scale, the passion quotient is high between Gemini’s and Pisceans, and so are the conflicts. Emotional, sensitive Piscean is too easily hurt by thoughtless, playful Gemini. Each practices deception in his or her own way: Gemini dissembles, Piscean won’t deal with reality. They are in fact, extreme opposites.

Gemini’s and Pisceans are a perfect match! So opposites do attract just like Yin & Yang, hot and cold, right and left, boy and girl….makes sense. And what does my story have to do with a fish falling from the sky? I leave it up to your imagination 🙂