I’m the kind of person who ask a lot of questions. Those who know me, say I’m both an introvert and an extrovert. It’s not important what kind of temperament I have, what’s important to me is to do that what I love and to live my passion.
I once read this article that you should listen 80% and only talk 20%. I loved the idea as sometimes I feel uncomfortable in conversations. The article explained how one can hold conversations by simply asking the right questions. Focussing on asking the right questions to hold a conversation so that I can manage the 20%, is a great challenge for any person’s mind and awareness. Knowing one has the power to hold conversations is empowering as well as releasing for the speaker and listener. One requires a special technique to do so and the key to asking the right questions: “to listen with an ear that hears behind the stories of the speaker. Meaning one listens to their listening”.
Only settling in for what I know will eventually make me a dull person. I try to avoid this as life is just too colorful and there is so much to explore! Asking enough questions connects me to the other person, to my environment and clears away confusion or misunderstandings.
So please do ask enough questions and question what you know. This will create new avenues for learning, meeting new friends and building networks, opening doors to exciting pathways and it’ll take your consciousness to new heights.
My lecturer requested we wrote about Dr Suess”s Cat in the Hat books. I didn’t have these books as a kid and after I read about it on the internet, I’m looking forward to experience this funny character and his stories with my little girl. As a mom of a very busy toddler who unpacks just about everything, teaching her not to leave a mess is exactly how Dr Seuss’s Cat will help!!
“The Cat in the Hat dates back to 1957 and features a very cheerful, exotic and high-spirited Cat who brings chaos to the household of a brother and a sister. The Cat performs all sorts of crazy tricks to entertain the children, all coming from his hat and with mix results of course! He got this box and out jumps two strange creatures: Thing One and Thing Two. These two start flying kites in the house while the children’s pets , a sapient and articulate fish dislike the Cat. The children, Sally and her unnamed older brother who is also the narrator, capture the Things and bring the Cat under control. The Cat cleans up and disappears in a second before their mother arrives. When their mother asked what they were up to while she was away, the story ends right there with this question, leaving the reader to think: What would you do if your mother asked you?”
The Cat in the Hat made a return appearance in the 1958 sequel and finish with little rhyming cats, designed to teach the reader the alphabet. Today you’ll find the Cat in the Hat’s Learning Library, a series of books for early development and the movie, The Cat in the Hat with Dakota Fanning playing Sally.
What kind of life do you want..? You have this choice, everyone does. No matter how rich or poor, we all have this choice.
When we were babies our parents/surrogates nurtured and loved us and this was the birth of our emotions. Growing up as fearless toddlers expressing ourselves freely and publicly. We were told to behave in certain ways, and sometimes even slapped or scolded if we disobeyed. We learned our parents/surrogates’ emotional patterns, whether positive or negative and made our way into this world: ‘beautifully conditioned by our parents.’
We should understand thatour parents/surrogates taught us what they knew and showed us their own conditioned experiences. They did not know better and continued these inherited patterns subconsciously. Whether we told ourselves we will be like them, better than them or completely different to them, the truth is these learned emotional behaviours control us like windup wooden dolls. Unless we learn our own new emotional behavioural patterns, we will never be free.
How do we learn new behaviour?
By understandingthese old behavioural patterns we then have the awareness of how to get rid of them. Once we are rid of them, we can then learn new ones by creating new behavioural patterns. Emotions and feelings follow behaviour which follow results.
Check out what life you want to live, create that life by being conscious and aware of your behaviour and in touch with your own feelings and emotions. You can attend courses that deal with these kind of issuessuch as the Hoffman Process that I highly recommend and completed myself: www.hoffmanprocess.co.uk