An Out Of Body Experience

Astral Projection

Have you ever had an out of body experience? I had one, and it was the scariest feeling ever! It was not my intention but somehow I made my way outwards, floating in the air and then…I panicked!

After my horrific experience, I questioned: “Will this happen when I die?” Will I experience the same feeling?”

My experience exposed a wild, imbalanced and clingy mind. If it is my mind that continues to exist after this life, then it makes sense to get to know it and train it. Meditation is a great tool for the mind. It means effortlessly remaining in whatever is. It creates the necessary distance to whatever we experience, it shows us the way things really are in life and creates the awareness of my true nature, of who I truly am.

In Buddhism we have a lot of meditation techniques. I choose Buddhist meditations, as I can trust in Buddha’s methods. He is the one who reached enlightenment (as they say, he got the ticket!) and left us various teachings, meditations and he onced said: “Don’t believe because a Buddha told you, check it out for yourself.”

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Will This Day Matter In 5 Years?


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No, this day will not matter in five years, absolutely not! Every time I experience the feeling of loss in my life, I force myself to believe this. Loss can be cruel, it breaks your heart and it can hurt like hell!

Loss, what does it mean? The dictionary defines loss as the fact or process of losing something or someone. According to Buddha, a human being experiences four kinds of suffering: old age, sickness, loss and death. When we experience any one of the four, it becomes very real and it is something we cannot ignore. We cannot go around these four…we have to experience or face it one day.

Last year I experienced sickness and lately only losses. Each time with a harder, tougher lesson to learn from our impermanent world. An interesting quote from Buddha: “Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a giant tree in the midst of them all. 

Yesterday after I lost my precious iphone and macbook, I sat down with a nice cup of coffee and ‘rested’ in what happened. Thoughts of disappointment, loss of beautiful memories and that aching pain of its-so-unfair made me burst into tears a few times. After I let it all out, I realized that despite of my losses and of what happened the last two years, I am still alive! I am still going, going strong and it could have been much worse. So with a smile I finished my (now cold) coffee, I asked that silly old question: “Will this day matter in five years?”….mmm….easy answer I guess 🙂

 

Why Am I So Stressed Out!

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Stress affects us all. Today I was victim of this uncomfortable emotion that drove me totally insane! All I wanted to do was to finish my work but unfortunately stress found its way into my system and confronted me with a tough lesson. At the end, I was so unproductive except for writing this post! 😉

Why do we stress? Stress is a small word that causes a lot of problems for so many. After my experience with stress (so far my entire postgraduate year!) I have to share with you that I am not managing stress very well. What is stress and why do we have it?

Apparently stress is necessary to survive in this life.  It can be a positive, negative or neutral experience. I found out that the key to handle stress lies in how we manage it when the feeling of stress comes our way.

Here are some interesting facts about stress: 

  • When you’re overwhelmed with too many things in your life or experiencing something out of the ordinary, stress is what you feel. 
  • Your body responds naturally as though you would be in danger (survival)
  • Your body experiences a release of hormones that makes your heart beats faster, you breathe faster and you get a boost of energy.  
  • The body’s response to stress is called the fight-or-flight mode. 

When it happens, this is what you can do:  (between brackets are my own examples) 

  • Acknowledge that you have stress (yes, about 8 out of 10!) 
  • Find out where it comes from (university and personal) 
  • Write it down and get a clear picture of your situation (thesis and assignment deadlines and my housework) 
  • Prioritize your situation and manage your time by using a time-table for that specific period (weekly timetable done for August with checklists) 
  • Find better ways to cope with situations like to call on support if you need to. (asked my mom and friend to support me with my housework and lighter projects)  
  • Learn from your past and make positive changes for your future. (saying no to social commitments!)
  • Go for a massage, meditate or have a relaxing weekend away in the country. (celebrate my achievements and make time for the most important person in my life…me!) 

I already booked that massage for next week and I am feeling better already! I hope you do too 😉

It Is Better To Practice A Little Than Talk A Lot

Getting your message across can sometimes be hard. The trick is to talk out of experience and to communicate the most important part of that specific experience.

People stop listening at some point in conversation. We all do. It is human nature to lose concentration by the second or third paragraph unless the story is either super exciting, gory or filled with gossipy bits. By the way, stay away from gossip…it reeks of bad karma for both the listener and talker. People engage in gossip usually to feel superior to others. By knocking down others, the theory is that one can boost one’s own self-image. Saying no to gossip is protecting yourself and the other from planting negative karma seeds. So please stop it.

Here is how you can practice right speech and get people to listen to you: 

1. Approach others with confidence, hold that head up! 

2. Briefly introduce yourself  and look people in the eye. Remember you have the right to be here!

3. Get your point across!

Talk about something you are passionate about and then ask questions. This draws attention and allows for immediate interaction. Use your eyes and don’t talk about things you have just heard or read briefly. You will look a fool if you are trying to impress with your vague knowledge and your ego will standout and people will stay away and loose respect.

If you don’t have much experience, then practice asking questions. This supports you in obtaining lots of information, and creates a life of excitement and interest. Saying yes all the time, means your ‘yes’ has no value. What really works for me is when somebody is right or when it resonates with me. I never say: ”You are right.” Instead I say: ” I agree.” It is much more empowering for both of us and strengthens my personal choices.

Enjoy your speech as a tool to help others and yourself. It is a gift to express, to change, to converse and to share. Being proud of your talk means you are proud of being you!

Why Traveling is a Must!

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Traveling has many benefits and I’m sure we all know that. Are you familiar with the phrase: ‘‘The tunnel view on life, normally seen and experienced in our so-called suburbs?’’ Anyway, we conclude with the answer to this question.

Traveling offers a broad scope and view on life and its experiences. You meet amazing people and travellers on the way, expand your knowledge on various cultures and gain new perspectives on the lives of many. Exploring spectacular architecture and magnificent geographical formations with pure adrenalin adventures of all sorts and snorkeling in the wide open seas are all added bonuses.

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You’ll learn native languages as you learn the niche of bargaining when buying creative arts and crafts from enthusiastic locals while you simultaneously experience immense gratitude for the comfort and safety of your own country. Traveling guarantees a stress-free experience, unless you’re the anxious type that wants everything to go your way. Traveling will knock you off your feet and teach you real life lessons. Not to mention when your stuff gets stolen or you are left with nothing but your clothes on. Yes, life lessons are part of traveling you should acknowledge and be prepared for.

Traveling offers more than just a collection of beautiful impressions and experiences. It completes you. It offers closure. It can map out your life and your future. It liberates you and your inner being. The secret to an amazing, fulfilling trip is to trust yourself and to let go of any expectations, whatsoever. To be in the moment and to allow your travels to sweep you off your feet.

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Or do you want to end up like those ‘tunnel view’ folks in the suburbs, with their perfect homes surrounded by white picket fences and double garages who only see themselves as perfect and everyone else as failures? The choice is yours. Go on, book that flight and set your mind free, before it’s too late!