What Is My Relationship To Life?

My relationship to life is to live life to the fullest and collect as many positive impressions in my mind and heart. I try to achieve this by learning and sharing from past mistakes, from present challenges and opportunities. I associate my life with developing compassion, expanding knowledge and deepening my spirituality. Being alive in today’s world, my relationship to life embrace flexibility, technology, surprises, adventure and love.

Occasionally my actions conflict with my relationship to life. This is then the exact moment when I become unbalanced and unhappy. Normally just writing in my journal supports me with clarity and the right plan of action.

For example, I’m invited to a party but I know if I go, I won’t get time to reach my report deadlines. These reports can support me with a flexible life one day. However that one-day is still far away in the future and the party is so close in the present. So the obvious thing to do is to go the party, right? I decide to go, have loads of fun but the next day stress arrives on my doorstep, maybe with a hangover and even some guilt…

Lesson learned: even if I reach my deadlines hastily, not putting my needs first in accordance to my relationship to life was in fact, a wrong move. Damn! 😉


Being Mindful…


A few weeks ago I experienced a lot of busy-ness as I was preparing for my finals and sorting out my little daughter. My mind was full of calculations, strategies, assessments, thesis and reports. I had to make a change, and found this wonderful information that supported me:

  1. Stop multi-tasking: when you eat, you eat. When you walk, you walk.
  2. Take your time: make your actions deliberate
  3. Do less by prioritizing: it is all a matter of what is important and letting go of what is not.
  4. Plan your schedule and leave enough space between tasks: it takes away stress and gives you a break.
  5. Sit in silence: only 5 minutes of silence and breathing will do you, your thoughts and your body very good.
  6. Focus on the present: stop worrying about the future, or outcomes. Let it go and focus on what you do now.
  7. Be present: listen and talk to others by being completely in the now
  8. Eat to enjoy: savor your food and eat slowly. You deserve this break and take time to digest.
  9. Live your life: savor your life and slow down. Enjoy each and every moment even the stressful ones with deadlines and tasks.
  10. Meditating house chores: put cooking and cleaning into practice of mindfulness. Be present to every task you do and watch your thoughts then change your thought patterns consciously.

During this time I learned a lot about myself, my thought patterns and my insecurities especially on my incapabilities of what I’m currently doing. In fact, if I look at the events now, I am grateful for the challenges because I could locate these habitual patterns that kept me sort of ‘stuck’ in life. Practicing the above will not only support me in achieving that what I want but it will benefit me in the long run to living a mindful, stress-free and productive life. Try it 🙂

Being a Gemini…


Astrology played an insignificant role in my life, however I agree with most qualities of a Gemini:

We’re considered to have many personalities or faces. Gemini’s are charming, creative, humorous and quick both in mind and body. We have a lot of energy, fast metabolisms and are clever with words. People say we are spiritual, intelligent and adaptable to locations, situations and people. We are naturally proactive and with an inquisitive mind. We love interaction, getting involved and communication. Unfortunately we do get bored easily and we tend to move from one unfinished project/idea to the next. They say we are superficial, but I don’t agree. I think we want everyone to like us but it’s hard to keep our word, as we made so many promises without thinking of the consequences. It’s difficult to stay in routine, therefore we do everything in moderation or to the extreme. It keeps the boredom away and that’s exactly when the multiple personalities kick in…people don’t understand why Gemini’s are so airy and different all the time. We just hate routine! We are a little naïve, we avoid people invading or ruining our positive energy. We don’t like crowds, as we love our personal space. We love everything that’s powerful, different and most of all…beautiful.

Please add your comments especially if you are Gemini 🙂

When It’s All Said and Done, Will You Have Said More Than You’ve Done?


Life is not short it’s just very precious. What you say becomes your truth. Every minute counts and it is what you do in that minute and not how many minutes you have. When the time has come for us to go, I would want to die open hands: knowing that I did everything I said I would.

Words are faster than actions. Being an air-sign makes me a dreamer and I tend to speak faster than what I should resulting in empty promises to others and myself. But thank goodness, that’s in the past and I am much better now since I made a conscious decision to walk my walk and talk my talk. And my secret: ‘just do it!’

Our actions have consequences and often we hurt others and ourselves unintentionally. We should do everything in moderation, out of respect and love for others and ourselves, our actions will have positive results.

So go out there, and do it. Achieve your goals, spend time with your loved ones, go out with your friends, write your bucket list, whatever it is, when it’s all said and done, you can say, I’ve done it all!!

Be Bold & Mighty Forces Will Come To Your Aid


Being bold means one doesn’t hesitate and is not fearful in the face of an actual or possible danger. The forces that can aid  you in being bold are desire, belief and expectation. In this case one is not afraid to break the rules of propriety and moving forward becomes a natural part of ones rhetoric or personal persuasion.

In order to want anything, you should have a desire to want it. The stronger your desire, the stronger your will to achieve and fully understand it, will be. You should believe that you will get that what you want and lastly, you should create an expectation of that result. The trick with expectation is that you create this expected result or manifestation from your own authority. You are the master of whatever you create, thus you can visualize this expected result while being in complete control of the consequences. Being bold elevates you accordingly in the art of acting from your own authority, thus crystalizing and reinforcing your experience of yourself.

One should remember that the universe works with cause and effect. The law is the law, what works with the molecule works with the universe and what works with the small, works with the mighty 😉 

Will This Day Matter In 5 Years?


No, this day will not matter in five years, absolutely not! Every time I experience the feeling of loss in my life, I force myself to believe this. Loss can be cruel, it breaks your heart and it can hurt like hell!

Loss, what does it mean? The dictionary defines loss as the fact or process of losing something or someone. According to Buddha, a human being experiences four kinds of suffering: old age, sickness, loss and death. When we experience any one of the four, it becomes very real and it is something we cannot ignore. We cannot go around these four…we have to experience or face it one day.

Last year I experienced sickness and lately only losses. Each time with a harder, tougher lesson to learn from our impermanent world. An interesting quote from Buddha: “Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a giant tree in the midst of them all. 

Yesterday after I lost my precious iphone and macbook, I sat down with a nice cup of coffee and ‘rested’ in what happened. Thoughts of disappointment, loss of beautiful memories and that aching pain of its-so-unfair made me burst into tears a few times. After I let it all out, I realized that despite of my losses and of what happened the last two years, I am still alive! I am still going, going strong and it could have been much worse. So with a smile I finished my (now cold) coffee, I asked that silly old question: “Will this day matter in five years?”….mmm….easy answer I guess 🙂


Are You Holding Something That You Need To Let Go?

Letting go means letting go, right? So then let go…or not?  Why holding onto things that make us unhappy anyway? It’s a subtle, clinging energy that is controlling us, yet we think we are in control.

I took on the challenge of letting things go and made myself a sacred space, lit a candle, played gentle music and there I was ready to start my little ceremony .

Boy oh boy, was I ready for a ‘bumpy’ ride! So slowly my heart opened and a rush of emotions swept over me, mainly compassion, disappointment, hurt and sadness.  The tears rolled down my cheeks and as the time went by I realized that not one of them shared the emotion happiness…’why do I hang onto them and for so long?’

I then repeated, “Today I am letting go of everything that keeps me stuck in life and all those things that do not serve me anymore. I let it go, and as I let it go…I forgive others and myself. I release this pain with love and make space for new beginnings of joy and happiness. I take control of my own life and my own happiness. Thank you!”

I started doing this in 2010 and ever since I feel lighter in my life, with my friends, with those who have hurt me and I hold no grudge against anyone or myself. I know sometimes we all do things without thinking or our intentions are perceived in a different way. Letting go means I am freeing myself from stuff that might one day show its face as a disease or any other uncomfortable situation!

After all, life is precious and should be lived to the fullest!

What Would You Do Differently If You Knew Nobody Would Judge You?

What would I do differently if I knew nobody would judge me? I would walk up to each living person, look him or her in the eye and say: “I love you”.

I participated in one of those empowering workshops and did an exercise where we had to walk up to each person (complete strangers at the time!) and look them in the eye, hold the contact and then slowly say with meaning: “I love you”.

Boy, was this exercise difficult! Some were laughing thinking it’s a joke, others were in a kind of strange silence (that was me) and a few were just doing as they’re told. At one point I noticed a feeling of openness and gradually I was beginning to enjoy giving love to complete strangers as well as receiving it. It felt really good and even I was fighting back the tears. Upon completion, we held hands and shared our experiences. The entire group felt immense love, compassion, forgiveness, letting go and gratitude!

In break time, I observed the crowd and what I saw was really beautiful: Everyone was present to everyone else’s needs. For the first time I experienced an environment of total unity, serenity and love. And this was with complete strangers!

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? 😉

How To Beat The Monday Blues…


As I was driving to class one Monday morning, I couldn’t help noticing an old, subconscious pattern in my mind, one that affects most of us: Monday Blues.… Even the funky-dance music on the radio didn’t do that trick Friday can. In fact, Monday blues feel like the exact opposite of TGIF excitement.

I investigated this phenomenon. Mondays feel like climbing a mountain, with map instructions and prepared rucksacks of supplies and tools for our journey: We wake up early for work, dive into family responsibilities and are swamped with all sorts of duties. Fridays feel like being on top of the mountain, we can rest, enjoy the view and we can feel our achievements.

Is there anything we can do to make Mondays feel like Fridays? How can we bring that excitement and freedom into Mondays? 

We could change our mindsets, our thoughts. We could transfer the exact emotions and thoughts of Friday’s into Mondays. Even if we are not capable of a similar freedom, we could create one for Mondays. Like they say: ‘ Same same, but different!’

For example: We could imagine our work place like a kids playground and our colleagues are our ‘friends’ whom we adore and eager to play with. We could imagine that our bulk-load  of responsibilities and tasks are our tools to play  and build sandcastles with. We can ‘trick’ our mind and create our own reality of fun and excitement!

If only life was that easy! But hey, anything is possible. Find ways to change your Monday blues into Monday bliss. We are not here forever anyway, we might as well be playful and enjoy the ride!


Interesting thought: Imagine living your life like you live in a hotel. Nothing belongs to you, you only have yourself and your luggage. You are the one responsible for paying your own bills (life responsibilities) and creating your day (all choices are up to you). Then when you finally check out, you leave with only yourself (your soul) and your luggage (karma)! 

Why Am I Feeling So Sad… :-(


My post ‘Cry” from a few months ago inspired me to write this blog. I noticed that ‘Cry’ receives the most hits per month. Sadness affects so many people and they are out there searching for help.

Please note that this post is based on my personal experience with emotions. If you are experiencing trauma, anger, severe depression please do seek professional help immediately. I hope and pray that my perception of emotions can bring you some kind of relief, heal your heart and strengthen your wellbeing. May it support you and offer you light on your beautiful path called life…..

Lets take a look at what is going on when you are feeling sad:  You feel depressed, empty, it hurts, you feel rejected, sore and ugly but most of all you feel terribly lonely.

Well, first of all what you are experiencing is completely normal and natural. Feeling sad is the opposite emotion of feeling good. Sadness is the other side of the nice life. Call it what you may, it is there and is now part of you. The first thing is to accept that you feel like shit! 

The next thing is to know that like all things in life, our emotions are coming and going. It is constantly changing and you will feel different at some stage but for now…..you are feeling sad. The next question: ‘What do you do now with this horrible feeling?’ …..You simply feel it!

Yes, that is what you do. Feel it, go into and dive into it without thinking.Make sure when you feel this emotion that you have space, the right support and enough time. Open yourself up and give yourself the chance to really feel it. Go on and feel it!!

There is one thing you must never do: “Never make a decision when you are ‘inside’ an emotion, especially if you feel it very strong like anger. You can hurt yourself and others. It is not possible to make conscious choices under a strong emotion’s influence.”

It may take a few minutes, it may take a day….even a year! It depends how strong the emotion’s imprint is in your heart. Let it out, otherwise you’re faced with it again in the future…it normally shows itself as a disease, a failure or a row of negative results in your life.

Open your heart to your sadness and welcome it. Don’t be afraid, breath into it and be proud of yourself for being able to feel. Once you feel balanced and stronger, then allow yourself to make the healthy choices. Feeling is what makes us human. Any kind of emotion has its role, it is there for a reason. Don’t push it away, oppress it, abuse it or go against it. Take it on, learn from it and enjoy the lesson.

All our obstacles in life are hidden opportunities for us to grow and transform to the better.