Stand By You

Standing by someone is beautiful and part of humanity. We support one another out of love and respect. We are there for our friends and partners in good times and in bad times. No matter what happens, we want to stand by our loved ones. Right?

What does it mean to be there for someone? It means offering your loving support to someone else without expecting anything in return. This is possible if you have learned to love yourself, unconditionally.

Here’s why: Anything you offer in the world, must live within yourself first. Otherwise you cannot give to the ‘outer’. You might think you can but then its based on a need for yourself. A need that you subconsciously feel the ‘outer’ should fulfill through your own expectation. At the end, you will be the disappointed one.

Loving yourself enough not to give your own power away when standing by someone means allowing others to freely express themselves, without judgement. A good way is to detach yourself from the results of your needs and others with 100% awareness and to listen to yourself and others. Offer your advice only when asked. Do so entirely without expecting anything in return from any friendship.

Practice this with your children, family members, friends, etc 🙂 Oh and do listen to this wonderful song that inspired me to write this blog!  I’ll Stand by You by the Pretenders ://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maAyfcO-X3k

The Sound of One Hand Clapping

The sound of one hand clapping is the same as the sound of two hands clapping!

The concept of clapping means that when two surfaces come into contact with one another it creates a sound. This can happen even if only one surface is moving. When there is no movement, there is no contact and there is no sound. One hand can make such a movement.

But what does this all means? It means that everything’s connected in some way or another. Everything is in relationship to everything else, interdependent. If the one change, the other one will experience change too. If only one hand moves towards a motionless hand, a clapping sound will be produced. And there will be an applause of some kind!

Should we want change in our lives, we don’t have to wait for something to happen. We don’t have to wait for that perfect someone to turn us into princes and princesses and we certainly don’t have to wait for any object or place to give us that perfect life or feeling.

We can and will experience results if we move or act in a certain way and change will happen. If you want positive change, you will experience positive results and vice versa (karma). There are no excuses and definitely something to think about 😉

”Be the change you want to see in your life” Mahatma Ghandi