Mom and Me

I never thought my mom and I would get this close. As a child it felt like she hated me, that she was never proud of my achievements and never gave me physical affection.

When I left home in my early twenties, I invited mom over to spend the weekend with me in the city.  She inspected my little habitat without saying a word and then continued towards the kitchen. After we had some lovely tea and cake, I felt now was the time for me to open up and look my mom in the eye, to talk to her not as my mom but like to another woman. I felt the time had come that she knows my truth.

I muttered nervously ahead that despite our indifference during my upbringing, I somehow felt that she loved me. I understood at some point that it must have been hard for her given the fact that her mom had to give her away as a little child. I told her that I realized how lucky I was that I had my biological mom to raise me and to give me everything that she could at the time; even if there wasn’t  much affection towards the words I love you or hugging.Regardless of it all, I knew that she loved me anyway. After a minute or so, she burst out in tears and then said that it was true, she always loved me and always will.

Since then we’re inseparable and share amazing journeys of fun, laughter, tears and adventure. Today my mom is openly expressing her love to my daughter and me. Both share an amazing bond of love and affection. It is such an inspiring relationship of three women who are beautifully developing and loving each other, unconditionally.

mom and me


What Is My Relationship To Life?

My relationship to life is to live life to the fullest and collect as many positive impressions in my mind and heart. I try to achieve this by learning and sharing from past mistakes, from present challenges and opportunities. I associate my life with developing compassion, expanding knowledge and deepening my spirituality. Being alive in today’s world, my relationship to life embrace flexibility, technology, surprises, adventure and love.

Occasionally my actions conflict with my relationship to life. This is then the exact moment when I become unbalanced and unhappy. Normally just writing in my journal supports me with clarity and the right plan of action.

For example, I’m invited to a party but I know if I go, I won’t get time to reach my report deadlines. These reports can support me with a flexible life one day. However that one-day is still far away in the future and the party is so close in the present. So the obvious thing to do is to go the party, right? I decide to go, have loads of fun but the next day stress arrives on my doorstep, maybe with a hangover and even some guilt…

Lesson learned: even if I reach my deadlines hastily, not putting my needs first in accordance to my relationship to life was in fact, a wrong move. Damn! 😉


When Was the Last Time You Tried Something New?

The last time I tried something new was in February. I had to write my first post on my new blog page, instructed by my media lecturer.

I remember that day. I had no experience in writing except for a few press releases let alone working on a blog on wordpress. On top of that, my first title of the post was called “how hard is it to follow instructions.”

It took about 3 hours to write this short post and I became really nervous. How the heck am I going to write 100 posts?

So today, 2 November, academic year is almost over and I’ve reached 90 posts! It was hard, stretched my creativity, called for patience and strict discipline. The toughest part was that English is not my first language!

I want to continue blogging as I enter my career in communications. It added a beautiful, creative, inspiring and positive energy to my life and dreams. It showed me that I’m fully capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. Now only one question remains: “What am I going to do when I reach 100 posts? Will I challenge something again…mmm….I’ll publish the book: My Perception of Reality 🙂


Being Mindful…

A few weeks ago I experienced a lot of busy-ness as I was preparing for my finals and sorting out my little daughter. My mind was full of calculations, strategies, assessments, thesis and reports. I had to make a change, and found this wonderful information that supported me:

  1. Stop multi-tasking: when you eat, you eat. When you walk, you walk.
  2. Take your time: make your actions deliberate
  3. Do less by prioritizing: it is all a matter of what is important and letting go of what is not.
  4. Plan your schedule and leave enough space between tasks: it takes away stress and gives you a break.
  5. Sit in silence: only 5 minutes of silence and breathing will do you, your thoughts and your body very good.
  6. Focus on the present: stop worrying about the future, or outcomes. Let it go and focus on what you do now.
  7. Be present: listen and talk to others by being completely in the now
  8. Eat to enjoy: savor your food and eat slowly. You deserve this break and take time to digest.
  9. Live your life: savor your life and slow down. Enjoy each and every moment even the stressful ones with deadlines and tasks.
  10. Meditating house chores: put cooking and cleaning into practice of mindfulness. Be present to every task you do and watch your thoughts then change your thought patterns consciously.

During this time I learned a lot about myself, my thought patterns and my insecurities especially on my incapabilities of what I’m currently doing. In fact, if I look at the events now, I am grateful for the challenges because I could locate these habitual patterns that kept me sort of ‘stuck’ in life. Practicing the above will not only support me in achieving that what I want but it will benefit me in the long run to living a mindful, stress-free and productive life. Try it 🙂

MSG Truth

Why does my noodles taste like chicken when there is no chicken inside the packet? My mom asked me the other day what does MSG stands for. I quickly checked my phone: monosodium glutamate. Used in the food industry as a flavor-enhancing amino acid and used in processed, packaged and fast foods. It is an excitatory neurotransmitter and neurotoxin.

Carol Hoernlein, former food process engineer and food scientist created

  •  MSG tricks your tongue into making you think a certain food is high in protein and thus nutritious. 
  • The food industry is trying to confuse the issue by focusing on the “fifth” taste sense they call umami. 
  • Free glutamic acid is detected by the taste buds as a simple way to signal the presence of protein in a food, just as there are fat receptors to detect fats and receptors that sense carbohydrate or sweet flavors. 
  • The purpose is to help us discern real food from inedible matter.  It changes your perception of not simply taste but the nutritious qualities of what you put into your mouth. 
  • MSG stimulates the pancreas to produce insulin.  The blood sugar drops because of the insulin flood.  You will be hungry again, soon.

Thanks to Carol, I am no longer a MSG consumer. Life is precious and with one life comes one body. I say no to MSG! And you?

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If Presented With the Opportunity to Get a Message to a Large Audience, What Would Your Message Be?

My message would have to be linked to something I think is plausible and relevant for any person, regardless of country, gender, education or age: Love

Most of us experienced this universal warmth and love. As little babies we survived on love. Our birth brought our families together and it is our families who gave us that what we needed. They stood by us while we developed into the persons we are today.

We should focus on igniting that innate feeling of love and then bring it to settle within our hearts. Once its settled, we should realize that regardless of circumstance, we have the ability to feel love within. We should then focus on expanding that love from within ourselves, out to everyone and everything until we all become one. A big bundle of life and love!! Live life and expand love. Live an inspired life of love. Live now in the moment, out of gratefulness as time has been given to us at birth and it will be taken away from us at death.

Spend each minute wisely and you decide with who you want to spend that time. Say yes and say no without explaining yourself. People will understand if they truly care.

My message for humanity is to reach for a world of love, unity and life! Where people are equal, live with dedication, inspiration and are passionate in whatever they do, with a deep-rooted belief in positive actions.

Perhaps my message is unoriginal…impossible….maybe even boring…..I don’t care as long as I live my message everyday with the wish that my actions positively contribute to the world I live in… Peace, always 🙂

Be Bold & Mighty Forces Will Come To Your Aid


Being bold means one doesn’t hesitate and is not fearful in the face of an actual or possible danger. The forces that can aid  you in being bold are desire, belief and expectation. In this case one is not afraid to break the rules of propriety and moving forward becomes a natural part of ones rhetoric or personal persuasion.

In order to want anything, you should have a desire to want it. The stronger your desire, the stronger your will to achieve and fully understand it, will be. You should believe that you will get that what you want and lastly, you should create an expectation of that result. The trick with expectation is that you create this expected result or manifestation from your own authority. You are the master of whatever you create, thus you can visualize this expected result while being in complete control of the consequences. Being bold elevates you accordingly in the art of acting from your own authority, thus crystalizing and reinforcing your experience of yourself.

One should remember that the universe works with cause and effect. The law is the law, what works with the molecule works with the universe and what works with the small, works with the mighty 😉 

The Statute Of Limitations Has Expired On Most Of Our Childhood Trauma

It is said that despite what has happened in our childhood, and whether we experienced childhood trauma and violence, we are still in control of our destiny.  If we want to move forward, we have to let go of our past and move into the future. We have to forgive, let go, move on and it helps just knowing that we are not alone. There are many abused children and they are afraid of their own future.

Below are child abuse statistics in America from

  • A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds
  • More than five children die every day as a result of child abuse
  • Approximately 80% of children that die from abuse are under the age of 4.
  • It is estimated that between 50-60% of child fatalities due to maltreatment are not recorded as such on death certificates.
  • More than 90% of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way.
  • Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.
  • About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
  • About 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.
  • The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2008 is $124 billion.

“When children are exposed to abuse, they learn to protect themselves by denial, withdrawal, approval-seeking, turning off their feelings, by acting out, and by self-blame. Using these coping mechanisms in childhood has long-term consequences, which can include lack of trust, a fear of change and resultant difficulty in adjusting, difficulty knowing or showing one’s own feelings, being easily stressed and acting on that by abusing substances, food, and one’s own body, and feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth.”

It is very difficult to heal our  hearts, and it will take time. This will support us immensely if we allow time for our own wellbeing, for the most important person: you.

Counseling is a very effective way to support you and there are various healing workshops on offer. I found the Hoffman Process workshop very beneficial.

My Favourite Cat in the Hat book is ……

Cat in the Hat

My lecturer requested we wrote about Dr Suess”s Cat in the Hat books. I didn’t have these books as a kid and after I read about it on the internet, I’m looking forward to experience this funny character and his stories with my little girl. As a mom of a very busy toddler who unpacks just about everything, teaching her not to leave a mess is exactly how Dr Seuss’s Cat will help!!

“The Cat in the Hat dates back to 1957  and features a very cheerful, exotic and high-spirited Cat who brings chaos to the household of a brother and a sister. The Cat performs all sorts of crazy tricks to entertain the children, all coming from his hat and with mix results of course! He got this box and out jumps two strange creatures: Thing One and Thing Two. These two start flying kites in the house while the children’s pets , a sapient and articulate fish dislike the Cat. The children, Sally and her unnamed older brother who is also the narrator, capture the Things and bring the Cat under control. The Cat cleans up and disappears in a second before their mother arrives. When their mother asked what they were up to while she was away, the story ends right there with this question, leaving the reader to think: What would you do if your mother asked you?”

The Cat in the Hat made a return appearance in the 1958 sequel and finish with little rhyming cats, designed to teach the reader the alphabet. Today you’ll find the Cat in the Hat’s Learning Library, a series of books for early development and the movie, The Cat in the Hat with Dakota Fanning playing Sally.