Being Mindful…

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A few weeks ago I experienced a lot of busy-ness as I was preparing for my finals and sorting out my little daughter. My mind was full of calculations, strategies, assessments, thesis and reports. I had to make a change, and found this wonderful information that supported me:

  1. Stop multi-tasking: when you eat, you eat. When you walk, you walk.
  2. Take your time: make your actions deliberate
  3. Do less by prioritizing: it is all a matter of what is important and letting go of what is not.
  4. Plan your schedule and leave enough space between tasks: it takes away stress and gives you a break.
  5. Sit in silence: only 5 minutes of silence and breathing will do you, your thoughts and your body very good.
  6. Focus on the present: stop worrying about the future, or outcomes. Let it go and focus on what you do now.
  7. Be present: listen and talk to others by being completely in the now
  8. Eat to enjoy: savor your food and eat slowly. You deserve this break and take time to digest.
  9. Live your life: savor your life and slow down. Enjoy each and every moment even the stressful ones with deadlines and tasks.
  10. Meditating house chores: put cooking and cleaning into practice of mindfulness. Be present to every task you do and watch your thoughts then change your thought patterns consciously.

During this time I learned a lot about myself, my thought patterns and my insecurities especially on my incapabilities of what I’m currently doing. In fact, if I look at the events now, I am grateful for the challenges because I could locate these habitual patterns that kept me sort of ‘stuck’ in life. Practicing the above will not only support me in achieving that what I want but it will benefit me in the long run to living a mindful, stress-free and productive life. Try it 🙂

When is the Time to Stop Calculating Risk & Reward and Just Do What You Know is Right?

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We live in a world where we are constantly pressurized to make decisions. Decisions, decisions and more decisions. It feels like our entire existence depends on it and our inner voices are consistently calculating what risks are involved and how much we will gain or loose…what will we get in return or not…right?

That is the time when I say: enough! Just do what’s right. Just do the right thing that feels right in your heart and stop thinking. At the end, everything will work out right anyway.

If I look back at the decisions I made especially the big, risky ones, I now see that at the time they were the right ones to choose. As my life transformed into the present, I am here because of those decisions. Sitting, thinking and contemplating about the risks involved is a natural thing, what becomes unnatural is when the sitting, thinking and calculating in your head never stops…

A friend of mine said the most complicated risks are when it’s decisions about your own life’s future, spiritually, family or your career. Live into the moment, do what feels right to you and do what cause no harm to others or yourself.

Live life and take the chances. We are in a specific situation because life brought us there to learn something. Be responsible and accountable for yourself, what others do to you, and most of all for your decisions and consequences.

Do You Ask Enough Questions?

Asking Enough Questions

I’m the kind of person who ask a lot of questions. Those who know me, say I’m both an introvert and an extrovert. It’s not important what kind of temperament I have, what’s important to me is to do that what I love and to live my passion.

I once read this article that you should listen 80% and only talk 20%. I loved the idea as sometimes I feel uncomfortable in conversations. The article explained how one can hold conversations by simply asking the right questions. Focussing on asking the right questions to hold a conversation so that I can manage the 20%, is a great challenge for any person’s mind and awareness. Knowing one has the power to hold conversations is empowering as well as releasing for the speaker and listener. One requires a special technique to do so and the key to asking the right questions: “to listen with an ear that hears behind the stories of the speaker. Meaning one listens to their listening”.

Only settling in for what I know will eventually make me a dull person. I try to avoid this as life is just too colorful and there is so much to explore! Asking enough questions connects me to the other person, to my environment and clears away confusion or misunderstandings.

So please do ask enough questions and question what you know. This will create new avenues for learning, meeting new friends and building networks, opening doors to exciting pathways and it’ll take your consciousness to new heights.

Of All the Forms Of Courage the Ability to Laugh is the Most …

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Laughter as we know best is part of a fun time, where we get to experience tickling sensations in our bodies leaving us with sore, achy stomach muscles and scratchy throats. But hey, do we care as the tears pour down our faces and the corners of our mouths are hurting from too wide smiling. No, it’s just too funny and feels too good to stop 🙂

Laughing is releasing, relaxing, it opens us up and feels absolutely liberating. Besides these fun and happy moments, it is also important to laugh during the difficult times.

Having the courage to laugh about something that is an issue or a problem for us, is just as liberating. When we laugh in these uncomfortable situations, we automatically drop the heavy weight of the issue from your shoulders, allowing us to view it from a different perspective.

Even letting out that crazy, hysterical nervous laugh can give us that relaxing feeling. Laughing it out doesn’t mean we care less about the issue, it means we take the stress off our shoulders. Once the stress is gone, we are left with clarity, strength and energy to tackle the issue or not. I found in most cases that stress is the culprit to the complications, troubles, confusions and anger found in our difficult moments and issues in our lives.

I guess we should all be brave and laugh it off anyway. I am laughing right now as I have only two weeks left to finish my postgraduate studies and as usual….I left everything for the last-minute!! So here I go: Hahahahaaa!!!!! 🙂
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Zanzibar Enchanting Archipelago

Zanzibar consists of small clusters of islands about 40km from the mainland, Tanzania. Nestled in turquoise waters of the Indian Ocean, the archipelago comprises of two main islands called Unguja and Pemba as well as a number of smaller islets and atolls. One can describe Zanzibar as an exotic island paradise blessed with palm fringed shores, timeless fishing villages and lush spice plantations.

Unguja, known as Zanzibar is the largest island measuring around 85km from north to south and 30km east to west. Unique African identity, Zanzibar is shaped by a turbulent history with a colourful cast of characters, from slave traders and sultans to pirates and princesses. Today Zanzibar is a blend of modern and ancient charm with a historic quarter called Stone Town. You will find an exotic blend of Arabic, Indian, European and African architecture of imposing palaces and fascinating maze of narrow streets and alleyways which lead past many old house and mosques, ornate places, shops and bazaars.

Zanzibar is packed with activities that will keep you smiling throughout your stay. From cultural and historical tours to pristine reefs and magical forests, Zanzibar provides it all.

ZANZIBAR ACTIVITIES 

1. Spice and Slave Tours – exploring the country side around Stone Town and meeting the rural communities.

2. Jozani Forest – A narrow belt of land linking east and west coast and home to the island’s most photographed resident, the Zanzibar red colobus monkey.

3. Dolphin and Whale Tours – Swim with dolphins in the Kizimkazi waters and spot whales at the most southerly point of Zanzibar.

4. Diving and Snorkeling – Zanzibar is surrounded by impressive array of coral reefs and marine life.

5. Deep fishing and Blue Safari – A fisherman’s paradise where you can experience spectacular deep-sea fishing and record-breaking catches. Sail away on one of the local carved Swahili dhow and go snorkeling, enjoy a fresh seafood grill with lazy sunbathing on white sandy beaches of the lagoons where dreams are made of.

6. Various Excursions: Prison island trips, sunset and sunrise cruises and sandbank picnics are  only a few of many other mouth-watering experiences waiting for you.

7. Watersports: waterskiing, windsurfing sailing, kitesurfing and kayaking are all available for your pleasure including equipment rental and training.

8. Conferencing and weddings – the perfect setting for large functions, conferences and weddings.

ZANZIBAR ACCOMMODATION

Budget traveller: Baby Bush Lodge and for the discerning traveller: Upendo Villas   (all amazing, I tried it out myself!) 🙂

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Why Am I Feeling So Sad… :-(

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My post ‘Cry” from a few months ago inspired me to write this blog. I noticed that ‘Cry’ receives the most hits per month. Sadness affects so many people and they are out there searching for help.

Please note that this post is based on my personal experience with emotions. If you are experiencing trauma, anger, severe depression please do seek professional help immediately. I hope and pray that my perception of emotions can bring you some kind of relief, heal your heart and strengthen your wellbeing. May it support you and offer you light on your beautiful path called life…..

Lets take a look at what is going on when you are feeling sad:  You feel depressed, empty, it hurts, you feel rejected, sore and ugly but most of all you feel terribly lonely.

Well, first of all what you are experiencing is completely normal and natural. Feeling sad is the opposite emotion of feeling good. Sadness is the other side of the nice life. Call it what you may, it is there and is now part of you. The first thing is to accept that you feel like shit! 

The next thing is to know that like all things in life, our emotions are coming and going. It is constantly changing and you will feel different at some stage but for now…..you are feeling sad. The next question: ‘What do you do now with this horrible feeling?’ …..You simply feel it!

Yes, that is what you do. Feel it, go into and dive into it without thinking.Make sure when you feel this emotion that you have space, the right support and enough time. Open yourself up and give yourself the chance to really feel it. Go on and feel it!!

There is one thing you must never do: “Never make a decision when you are ‘inside’ an emotion, especially if you feel it very strong like anger. You can hurt yourself and others. It is not possible to make conscious choices under a strong emotion’s influence.”

It may take a few minutes, it may take a day….even a year! It depends how strong the emotion’s imprint is in your heart. Let it out, otherwise you’re faced with it again in the future…it normally shows itself as a disease, a failure or a row of negative results in your life.

Open your heart to your sadness and welcome it. Don’t be afraid, breath into it and be proud of yourself for being able to feel. Once you feel balanced and stronger, then allow yourself to make the healthy choices. Feeling is what makes us human. Any kind of emotion has its role, it is there for a reason. Don’t push it away, oppress it, abuse it or go against it. Take it on, learn from it and enjoy the lesson.

All our obstacles in life are hidden opportunities for us to grow and transform to the better.