Yes. Lying without saying a word is what I call lying by omission: leaving out a factual detail deliberately that would drastically change the meaning of what was said.
It’s buying something and not telling the person you bought it. It’s meeting someone for a liaison and not telling your significant other about it. It’s cheating on a test and telling no one. Deleting a word or a phrase to change its meaning to suit your needs….
Lying by omission is when an important fact is omitted, deliberately leaving another person with a misconception. The consequences of lying are that eventually no one will listen to you, trust you or take you serious. It is worth being honest to others and yourself. The benefits to live a life of integrity magnifies a life filled with abundance, love and happiness all year round!
We live in a world where we are constantly pressurized to make decisions. Decisions, decisions and more decisions. It feels like our entire existence depends on it and our inner voices are consistently calculating what risks are involved and how much we will gain or loose…what will we get in return or not…right?
That is the time when I say: enough! Just do what’s right. Just do the right thing that feels right in your heart and stop thinking. At the end, everything will work out right anyway.
If I look back at the decisions I made especially the big, risky ones, I now see that at the time they were the right ones to choose. As my life transformed into the present, I am here because of those decisions. Sitting, thinking and contemplating about the risks involved is a natural thing, what becomes unnatural is when the sitting, thinking and calculating in your head never stops…
A friend of mine said the most complicated risks are when it’s decisions about your own life’s future, spiritually, family or your career. Live into the moment, do what feels right to you and do what cause no harm to others or yourself.
Live life and take the chances. We are in a specific situation because life brought us there to learn something. Be responsible and accountable for yourself, what others do to you, and most of all for your decisions and consequences.
I find that being in a state of gratefulness allows me to really put things into perspective: I may not have everything I want but I always have everything I need.
Often life throws me ‘gratefulness’ reminders, especially when things are not going as planned. That is the time to celebrate who I am, what I am and what I have. When I feel like complaining, it’s the perfect opportunity to realize that despite my present misery, I do have a good life and that I am lucky to be born when, where and to whom.
Of course there are times I’m unaware, but that is what makes me human. Sometimes its okay to complain and just be. As long as I am aware of the big picture and of my innate being which expresses a constant, subtle and general happiness.
When we chase happiness it tends to fly away like a butterfly, moving further away each time we grab for it. When we recognize gratitude and celebrate a realistic reality of it, we’ll find happiness landing directly on our shoulders J
I’m the kind of person who ask a lot of questions. Those who know me, say I’m both an introvert and an extrovert. It’s not important what kind of temperament I have, what’s important to me is to do that what I love and to live my passion.
I once read this article that you should listen 80% and only talk 20%. I loved the idea as sometimes I feel uncomfortable in conversations. The article explained how one can hold conversations by simply asking the right questions. Focussing on asking the right questions to hold a conversation so that I can manage the 20%, is a great challenge for any person’s mind and awareness. Knowing one has the power to hold conversations is empowering as well as releasing for the speaker and listener. One requires a special technique to do so and the key to asking the right questions: “to listen with an ear that hears behind the stories of the speaker. Meaning one listens to their listening”.
Only settling in for what I know will eventually make me a dull person. I try to avoid this as life is just too colorful and there is so much to explore! Asking enough questions connects me to the other person, to my environment and clears away confusion or misunderstandings.
So please do ask enough questions and question what you know. This will create new avenues for learning, meeting new friends and building networks, opening doors to exciting pathways and it’ll take your consciousness to new heights.
Laughter as we know best is part of a fun time, where we get to experience tickling sensations in our bodies leaving us with sore, achy stomach muscles and scratchy throats. But hey, do we care as the tears pour down our faces and the corners of our mouths are hurting from too wide smiling. No, it’s just too funny and feels too good to stop 🙂
Laughing is releasing, relaxing, it opens us up and feels absolutely liberating. Besides these fun and happy moments, it is also important to laugh during the difficult times.
Having the courage to laugh about something that is an issue or a problem for us, is just as liberating. When we laugh in these uncomfortable situations, we automatically drop the heavy weight of the issue from your shoulders, allowing us to view it from a different perspective.
Even letting out that crazy, hysterical nervous laugh can give us that relaxing feeling. Laughing it out doesn’t mean we care less about the issue, it means we take the stress off our shoulders. Once the stress is gone, we are left with clarity, strength and energy to tackle the issue or not. I found in most cases that stress is the culprit to the complications, troubles, confusions and anger found in our difficult moments and issues in our lives.
I guess we should all be brave and laugh it off anyway. I am laughing right now as I have only two weeks left to finish my postgraduate studies and as usual….I left everything for the last-minute!! So here I go: Hahahahaaa!!!!! 🙂
Imagine we didn’t have age and we celebrated birthdays like most of us celebrate Christmas: lots of presents, happy-happy family and friends with loads to eat and drink! However we do live in a complicated world with unfair rules, that often control and manipulate the way we tend to view age and numbers.
This is what age means, scientifically: “Aging is the process of growing old chronologically. Old age is a usual process of life that occurs to everyone. A person is called old on the grounds of this chronological age. In reality, it is the functional state of a living organism, meaning the biological age that decides the aging process of a person. Aging is a period of numerous illnesses and common disability. In addition to an increased level of illness, the aging process itself shows the way to certain disabilities such as low vision and loss of sight resulting from cataracts, deafness resulting from nerve destruction, loss of mobility from arthritis and a common inability to care for oneself.There are several types of physical appearance that give useful clues to aging…”
We as human beings experience the unavoidable process of old age. To live in acceptance of our aging process, not only means we loose our fear of it, we are also setting us ‘free’ from our destined circumstance. In the end, it really doesn’t matter what ‘age number’ we are. It is all about how old we feel on a physical and mental state with regards to our own aging process.
Ask yourself that question today, inspect your outer and inner being carefully and see what is your true age. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
Being bold means one doesn’t hesitate and is not fearful in the face of an actual or possible danger. The forces that can aid you in being bold are desire, belief and expectation. In this case one is not afraid to break the rules of propriety and moving forward becomes a natural part of ones rhetoric or personal persuasion.
In order to want anything, you should have a desire to want it. The stronger your desire, the stronger your will to achieve and fully understand it, will be. You should believe that you will get that what you want and lastly, you should create an expectation of that result. The trick with expectation is that you create this expected result or manifestation from your own authority. You are the master of whatever you create, thus you can visualize this expected result while being in complete control of the consequences. Being bold elevates you accordingly in the art of acting from your own authority, thus crystalizing and reinforcing your experience of yourself.
One should remember that the universe works with cause and effect. The law is the law, what works with the molecule works with the universe and what works with the small, works with the mighty 😉
It is said that despite what has happened in our childhood, and whether we experienced childhood trauma and violence, we are still in control of our destiny. If we want to move forward, we have to let go of our past and move into the future. We have to forgive, let go, move on and it helps just knowing that we are not alone. There are many abused children and they are afraid of their own future.
More than five children die every day as a result of child abuse
Approximately 80% of children that die from abuse are under the age of 4.
It is estimated that between 50-60% of child fatalities due to maltreatment are not recorded as such on death certificates.
More than 90% of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way.
Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.
About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
About 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.
The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2008 is $124 billion.
“When children are exposed to abuse, they learn to protect themselves by denial, withdrawal, approval-seeking, turning off their feelings, by acting out, and by self-blame. Using these coping mechanisms in childhood has long-term consequences, which can include lack of trust, a fear of change and resultant difficulty in adjusting, difficulty knowing or showing one’s own feelings, being easily stressed and acting on that by abusing substances, food, and one’s own body, and feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth.”
It is very difficult to heal our hearts, and it will take time. This will support us immensely if we allow time for our own wellbeing, for the most important person: you.
Counseling is a very effective way to support you and there are various healing workshops on offer. I found the Hoffman Process workshop very beneficial.
Things naturally happen quicker for me when I’m unprepared, in this case bad things happen quickly. Our awareness is directed towards the good things in life, our needs and our goals and not towards the bad things.
During my travels, I experienced incidents of theft. Most of them were planned. These thieves were quick at what they did. It always left me angry and disappointed why someone would want to do that to another, knowing how precious certain things can be to an individual, especially if there are memories involve.
When the bad things happen, stop and don’t ask yourself why but ask how? There’s always a lesson for us to learn from any kind of experience.
Questions such as how could this have happened to me, how did it affect me and how can I learn from this? Can it be the fruition of my actions from previous lifetimes and how can I stop these incidents from happening again?
I’ll write about this in my next post: “Cause and Effect”
What would I do differently if I knew nobody would judge me? I would walk up to each living person, look him or her in the eye and say: “I love you”.
I participated in one of those empowering workshops and did an exercise where we had to walk up to each person (complete strangers at the time!) and look them in the eye, hold the contact and then slowly say with meaning: “I love you”.
Boy, was this exercise difficult! Some were laughing thinking it’s a joke, others were in a kind of strange silence (that was me) and a few were just doing as they’re told. At one point I noticed a feeling of openness and gradually I was beginning to enjoy giving love to complete strangers as well as receiving it. It felt really good and even I was fighting back the tears. Upon completion, we held hands and shared our experiences. The entire group felt immense love, compassion, forgiveness, letting go and gratitude!
In break time, I observed the crowd and what I saw was really beautiful: Everyone was present to everyone else’s needs. For the first time I experienced an environment of total unity, serenity and love. And this was with complete strangers!
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? 😉