I never thought my mom and I would get this close. As a child it felt like she hated me, that she was never proud of my achievements and never gave me physical affection.
When I left home in my early twenties, I invited mom over to spend the weekend with me in the city. She inspected my little habitat without saying a word and then continued towards the kitchen. After we had some lovely tea and cake, I felt now was the time for me to open up and look my mom in the eye, to talk to her not as my mom but like to another woman. I felt the time had come that she knows my truth.
I muttered nervously ahead that despite our indifference during my upbringing, I somehow felt that she loved me. I understood at some point that it must have been hard for her given the fact that her mom had to give her away as a little child. I told her that I realized how lucky I was that I had my biological mom to raise me and to give me everything that she could at the time; even if there wasn’t much affection towards the words I love you or hugging.Regardless of it all, I knew that she loved me anyway. After a minute or so, she burst out in tears and then said that it was true, she always loved me and always will.
Since then we’re inseparable and share amazing journeys of fun, laughter, tears and adventure. Today my mom is openly expressing her love to my daughter and me. Both share an amazing bond of love and affection. It is such an inspiring relationship of three women who are beautifully developing and loving each other, unconditionally.
My relationship to life is to live life to the fullest and collect as many positive impressions in my mind and heart. I try to achieve this by learning and sharing from past mistakes, from present challenges and opportunities. I associate my life with developing compassion, expanding knowledge and deepening my spirituality. Being alive in today’s world, my relationship to life embrace flexibility, technology, surprises, adventure and love.
Occasionally my actions conflict with my relationship to life. This is then the exact moment when I become unbalanced and unhappy. Normally just writing in my journal supports me with clarity and the right plan of action.
For example, I’m invited to a party but I know if I go, I won’t get time to reach my report deadlines. These reports can support me with a flexible life one day. However that one-day is still far away in the future and the party is so close in the present. So the obvious thing to do is to go the party, right? I decide to go, have loads of fun but the next day stress arrives on my doorstep, maybe with a hangover and even some guilt…
Lesson learned: even if I reach my deadlines hastily, not putting my needs first in accordance to my relationship to life was in fact, a wrong move. Damn! 😉
The last time I tried something new was in February. I had to write my first post on my new blog page, instructed by my media lecturer.
I remember that day. I had no experience in writing except for a few press releases let alone working on a blog on wordpress. On top of that, my first title of the post was called “how hard is it to follow instructions.”
It took about 3 hours to write this short post and I became really nervous. How the heck am I going to write 100 posts?
So today, 2 November, academic year is almost over and I’ve reached 90 posts! It was hard, stretched my creativity, called for patience and strict discipline. The toughest part was that English is not my first language!
I want to continue blogging as I enter my career in communications. It added a beautiful, creative, inspiring and positive energy to my life and dreams. It showed me that I’m fully capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. Now only one question remains: “What am I going to do when I reach 100 posts? Will I challenge something again…mmm….I’ll publish the book: My Perception of Reality 🙂
A few weeks ago I experienced a lot of busy-ness as I was preparing for my finals and sorting out my little daughter. My mind was full of calculations, strategies, assessments, thesis and reports. I had to make a change, and found this wonderful information that supported me:
Stop multi-tasking: when you eat, you eat. When you walk, you walk.
Take your time: make your actions deliberate
Do less by prioritizing: it is all a matter of what is important and letting go of what is not.
Plan your schedule and leave enough space between tasks: it takes away stress and gives you a break.
Sit in silence: only 5 minutes of silence and breathing will do you, your thoughts and your body very good.
Focus on the present: stop worrying about the future, or outcomes. Let it go and focus on what you do now.
Be present: listen and talk to others by being completely in the now
Eat to enjoy: savor your food and eat slowly. You deserve this break and take time to digest.
Live your life: savor your life and slow down. Enjoy each and every moment even the stressful ones with deadlines and tasks.
Meditating house chores: put cooking and cleaning into practice of mindfulness. Be present to every task you do and watch your thoughts then change your thought patterns consciously.
During this time I learned a lot about myself, my thought patterns and my insecurities especially on my incapabilities of what I’m currently doing. In fact, if I look at the events now, I am grateful for the challenges because I could locate these habitual patterns that kept me sort of ‘stuck’ in life. Practicing the above will not only support me in achieving that what I want but it will benefit me in the long run to living a mindful, stress-free and productive life. Try it 🙂
Why does my noodles taste like chicken when there is no chicken inside the packet? My mom asked me the other day what does MSG stands for. I quickly checked my phone: monosodium glutamate. Used in the food industry as a flavor-enhancing amino acid and used in processed, packaged and fast foods. It is an excitatory neurotransmitter and neurotoxin.
Carol Hoernlein, former food process engineer and food scientist created msgtruth.org:
MSG tricks your tongue into making you think a certain food is high in protein and thus nutritious.
The food industry is trying to confuse the issue by focusing on the “fifth” taste sense they call umami.
Free glutamic acid is detected by the taste buds as a simple way to signal the presence of protein in a food, just as there are fat receptors to detect fats and receptors that sense carbohydrate or sweet flavors.
The purpose is to help us discern real food from inedible matter. It changes your perception of not simply taste but the nutritious qualities of what you put into your mouth.
MSG stimulates the pancreas to produce insulin. The blood sugar drops because of the insulin flood. You will be hungry again, soon.
Thanks to Carol, I am no longer a MSG consumer. Life is precious and with one life comes one body. I say no to MSG! And you?
My message would have to be linked to something I think is plausible and relevant for any person, regardless of country, gender, education or age: Love
Most of us experienced this universal warmth and love. As little babies we survived on love. Our birth brought our families together and it is our families who gave us that what we needed. They stood by us while we developed into the persons we are today.
We should focus on igniting that innate feeling of love and then bring it to settle within our hearts. Once its settled, we should realize that regardless of circumstance, we have the ability to feel love within. We should then focus on expanding that love from within ourselves, out to everyone and everything until we all become one. A big bundle of life and love!! Live life and expand love.Live an inspired life of love. Live now in the moment, out of gratefulness as time has been given to us at birth and it will be taken away from us at death.
Spend each minute wisely and you decide with who you want to spend that time. Say yes and say no without explaining yourself. People will understand if they truly care.
My message for humanity is to reach for a world of love, unity and life! Where people are equal, live with dedication, inspiration and are passionate in whatever they do, with a deep-rooted belief in positive actions.
Perhaps my message is unoriginal…impossible….maybe even boring…..I don’t care as long as I live my message everyday with the wish that my actions positively contribute to the world I live in… Peace, always 🙂
Life is not short it’s just very precious. What you say becomes your truth. Every minute counts and it is what you do in that minute and not how many minutes you have. When the time has come for us to go, I would want to die open hands: knowing that I did everything I said I would.
Words are faster than actions. Being an air-sign makes me a dreamer and I tend to speak faster than what I should resulting in empty promises to others and myself. But thank goodness, that’s in the past and I am much better now since I made a conscious decision to walk my walk and talk my talk. And my secret: ‘just do it!’
Our actions have consequences and often we hurt others and ourselves unintentionally. We should do everything in moderation, out of respect and love for others and ourselves, our actions will have positive results.
So go out there, and do it. Achieve your goals, spend time with your loved ones, go out with your friends, write your bucket list, whatever it is, when it’s all said and done, you can say, I’ve done it all!!
Laughter as we know best is part of a fun time, where we get to experience tickling sensations in our bodies leaving us with sore, achy stomach muscles and scratchy throats. But hey, do we care as the tears pour down our faces and the corners of our mouths are hurting from too wide smiling. No, it’s just too funny and feels too good to stop 🙂
Laughing is releasing, relaxing, it opens us up and feels absolutely liberating. Besides these fun and happy moments, it is also important to laugh during the difficult times.
Having the courage to laugh about something that is an issue or a problem for us, is just as liberating. When we laugh in these uncomfortable situations, we automatically drop the heavy weight of the issue from your shoulders, allowing us to view it from a different perspective.
Even letting out that crazy, hysterical nervous laugh can give us that relaxing feeling. Laughing it out doesn’t mean we care less about the issue, it means we take the stress off our shoulders. Once the stress is gone, we are left with clarity, strength and energy to tackle the issue or not. I found in most cases that stress is the culprit to the complications, troubles, confusions and anger found in our difficult moments and issues in our lives.
I guess we should all be brave and laugh it off anyway. I am laughing right now as I have only two weeks left to finish my postgraduate studies and as usual….I left everything for the last-minute!! So here I go: Hahahahaaa!!!!! 🙂
Imagine we didn’t have age and we celebrated birthdays like most of us celebrate Christmas: lots of presents, happy-happy family and friends with loads to eat and drink! However we do live in a complicated world with unfair rules, that often control and manipulate the way we tend to view age and numbers.
This is what age means, scientifically: “Aging is the process of growing old chronologically. Old age is a usual process of life that occurs to everyone. A person is called old on the grounds of this chronological age. In reality, it is the functional state of a living organism, meaning the biological age that decides the aging process of a person. Aging is a period of numerous illnesses and common disability. In addition to an increased level of illness, the aging process itself shows the way to certain disabilities such as low vision and loss of sight resulting from cataracts, deafness resulting from nerve destruction, loss of mobility from arthritis and a common inability to care for oneself.There are several types of physical appearance that give useful clues to aging…”
We as human beings experience the unavoidable process of old age. To live in acceptance of our aging process, not only means we loose our fear of it, we are also setting us ‘free’ from our destined circumstance. In the end, it really doesn’t matter what ‘age number’ we are. It is all about how old we feel on a physical and mental state with regards to our own aging process.
Ask yourself that question today, inspect your outer and inner being carefully and see what is your true age. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?