Only Bad Things Happen Quickly

Things naturally happen quicker for me when I’m unprepared, in this case bad things happen quickly. Our awareness is directed towards the good things in life, our needs and our goals and not towards the bad things.

During my travels, I experienced incidents of theft. Most of them were planned. These thieves were quick at what they did. It always left me angry and disappointed why someone would want to do that to another, knowing how precious certain things can be to an individual, especially if there are memories involve.

When the bad things happen, stop and don’t ask yourself why but ask how? There’s always a lesson for us to learn from any kind of experience.

Questions such as how could this have happened to me, how did it affect me and how can I learn from this? Can it be the fruition of my actions from previous lifetimes and how can I stop these incidents from happening again?

I’ll write about this in my next post: “Cause and Effect”

Watch This Space

 

How often do you say this to yourself? Watch this space means you think there will soon be exciting changes in a situation or in your life.

One knows when its time to move on or make changes. Animal instinct! The feeling is exciting, uneasy, unsettling and very similar to those butterflies in our tummy. Sometimes we ignore that little voice but this time I say: “ Go!”

Avoiding change is stopping oneself from growing and reaching ones full potential. Walking into change is like opening up a present. You don’t know what you are getting, but you know that it is a gift and it can never harm you. It can only benefit you and if not, you can pass it on.

2012 is almost done and I am excited: I finish my postgraduate studies this year and I’m saying hello to a life of complete new beginnings! So watch this space!

A New Life

 

My Favourite Cat in the Hat book is ……

Cat in the Hat

My lecturer requested we wrote about Dr Suess”s Cat in the Hat books. I didn’t have these books as a kid and after I read about it on the internet, I’m looking forward to experience this funny character and his stories with my little girl. As a mom of a very busy toddler who unpacks just about everything, teaching her not to leave a mess is exactly how Dr Seuss’s Cat will help!!

“The Cat in the Hat dates back to 1957  and features a very cheerful, exotic and high-spirited Cat who brings chaos to the household of a brother and a sister. The Cat performs all sorts of crazy tricks to entertain the children, all coming from his hat and with mix results of course! He got this box and out jumps two strange creatures: Thing One and Thing Two. These two start flying kites in the house while the children’s pets , a sapient and articulate fish dislike the Cat. The children, Sally and her unnamed older brother who is also the narrator, capture the Things and bring the Cat under control. The Cat cleans up and disappears in a second before their mother arrives. When their mother asked what they were up to while she was away, the story ends right there with this question, leaving the reader to think: What would you do if your mother asked you?”

The Cat in the Hat made a return appearance in the 1958 sequel and finish with little rhyming cats, designed to teach the reader the alphabet. Today you’ll find the Cat in the Hat’s Learning Library, a series of books for early development and the movie, The Cat in the Hat with Dakota Fanning playing Sally.

Will This Day Matter In 5 Years?


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No, this day will not matter in five years, absolutely not! Every time I experience the feeling of loss in my life, I force myself to believe this. Loss can be cruel, it breaks your heart and it can hurt like hell!

Loss, what does it mean? The dictionary defines loss as the fact or process of losing something or someone. According to Buddha, a human being experiences four kinds of suffering: old age, sickness, loss and death. When we experience any one of the four, it becomes very real and it is something we cannot ignore. We cannot go around these four…we have to experience or face it one day.

Last year I experienced sickness and lately only losses. Each time with a harder, tougher lesson to learn from our impermanent world. An interesting quote from Buddha: “Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a giant tree in the midst of them all. 

Yesterday after I lost my precious iphone and macbook, I sat down with a nice cup of coffee and ‘rested’ in what happened. Thoughts of disappointment, loss of beautiful memories and that aching pain of its-so-unfair made me burst into tears a few times. After I let it all out, I realized that despite of my losses and of what happened the last two years, I am still alive! I am still going, going strong and it could have been much worse. So with a smile I finished my (now cold) coffee, I asked that silly old question: “Will this day matter in five years?”….mmm….easy answer I guess 🙂

 

Are You Holding Something That You Need To Let Go?

Letting go means letting go, right? So then let go…or not?  Why holding onto things that make us unhappy anyway? It’s a subtle, clinging energy that is controlling us, yet we think we are in control.

I took on the challenge of letting things go and made myself a sacred space, lit a candle, played gentle music and there I was ready to start my little ceremony .

Boy oh boy, was I ready for a ‘bumpy’ ride! So slowly my heart opened and a rush of emotions swept over me, mainly compassion, disappointment, hurt and sadness.  The tears rolled down my cheeks and as the time went by I realized that not one of them shared the emotion happiness…’why do I hang onto them and for so long?’

I then repeated, “Today I am letting go of everything that keeps me stuck in life and all those things that do not serve me anymore. I let it go, and as I let it go…I forgive others and myself. I release this pain with love and make space for new beginnings of joy and happiness. I take control of my own life and my own happiness. Thank you!”

I started doing this in 2010 and ever since I feel lighter in my life, with my friends, with those who have hurt me and I hold no grudge against anyone or myself. I know sometimes we all do things without thinking or our intentions are perceived in a different way. Letting go means I am freeing myself from stuff that might one day show its face as a disease or any other uncomfortable situation!

After all, life is precious and should be lived to the fullest!

What Would You Do Differently If You Knew Nobody Would Judge You?

What would I do differently if I knew nobody would judge me? I would walk up to each living person, look him or her in the eye and say: “I love you”.

I participated in one of those empowering workshops and did an exercise where we had to walk up to each person (complete strangers at the time!) and look them in the eye, hold the contact and then slowly say with meaning: “I love you”.

Boy, was this exercise difficult! Some were laughing thinking it’s a joke, others were in a kind of strange silence (that was me) and a few were just doing as they’re told. At one point I noticed a feeling of openness and gradually I was beginning to enjoy giving love to complete strangers as well as receiving it. It felt really good and even I was fighting back the tears. Upon completion, we held hands and shared our experiences. The entire group felt immense love, compassion, forgiveness, letting go and gratitude!

In break time, I observed the crowd and what I saw was really beautiful: Everyone was present to everyone else’s needs. For the first time I experienced an environment of total unity, serenity and love. And this was with complete strangers!

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? 😉

Why I Have Conversations?

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I have conversations with myself and with others because I want to share something. Happiness is at its best when one can share it with someone.

For example, when something interesting happens to me, I have to share it. I have this urgent need to call a friend, or meet for drinks or something. This means I get to experience it ‘all over again’!

When negativity happens, I share it because I either want to let it go, get an opinion or just because I feel like experiencing it once more. This way I can see what went wrong. Having conversations means I get to learn from myself and others which means I’m wiser and stronger for when history decides to repeat itself 🙂

For me, conversation connects us all. Conversation is the verbal exchange of thoughts, opinions and feelings. One needs to be conscious when conversing. Everything leaves an impression, and it is up to each one of us to be aware how and why we communicate. Words vibrate into the universe and can change the air molecules. Just like water, so be aware of what you wish for, it might come true!  Just for fun, please join the Wish Group on Facebook 🙂

Zanzibar Enchanting Archipelago

Zanzibar consists of small clusters of islands about 40km from the mainland, Tanzania. Nestled in turquoise waters of the Indian Ocean, the archipelago comprises of two main islands called Unguja and Pemba as well as a number of smaller islets and atolls. One can describe Zanzibar as an exotic island paradise blessed with palm fringed shores, timeless fishing villages and lush spice plantations.

Unguja, known as Zanzibar is the largest island measuring around 85km from north to south and 30km east to west. Unique African identity, Zanzibar is shaped by a turbulent history with a colourful cast of characters, from slave traders and sultans to pirates and princesses. Today Zanzibar is a blend of modern and ancient charm with a historic quarter called Stone Town. You will find an exotic blend of Arabic, Indian, European and African architecture of imposing palaces and fascinating maze of narrow streets and alleyways which lead past many old house and mosques, ornate places, shops and bazaars.

Zanzibar is packed with activities that will keep you smiling throughout your stay. From cultural and historical tours to pristine reefs and magical forests, Zanzibar provides it all.

ZANZIBAR ACTIVITIES 

1. Spice and Slave Tours – exploring the country side around Stone Town and meeting the rural communities.

2. Jozani Forest – A narrow belt of land linking east and west coast and home to the island’s most photographed resident, the Zanzibar red colobus monkey.

3. Dolphin and Whale Tours – Swim with dolphins in the Kizimkazi waters and spot whales at the most southerly point of Zanzibar.

4. Diving and Snorkeling – Zanzibar is surrounded by impressive array of coral reefs and marine life.

5. Deep fishing and Blue Safari – A fisherman’s paradise where you can experience spectacular deep-sea fishing and record-breaking catches. Sail away on one of the local carved Swahili dhow and go snorkeling, enjoy a fresh seafood grill with lazy sunbathing on white sandy beaches of the lagoons where dreams are made of.

6. Various Excursions: Prison island trips, sunset and sunrise cruises and sandbank picnics are  only a few of many other mouth-watering experiences waiting for you.

7. Watersports: waterskiing, windsurfing sailing, kitesurfing and kayaking are all available for your pleasure including equipment rental and training.

8. Conferencing and weddings – the perfect setting for large functions, conferences and weddings.

ZANZIBAR ACCOMMODATION

Budget traveller: Baby Bush Lodge and for the discerning traveller: Upendo Villas   (all amazing, I tried it out myself!) 🙂

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Bucket List

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We are all familiar with the phrase ‘life is a journey, not a destination.’ Do we actually walk this talk?  Do we stop to smell the innocent, sweet flowers and hug the powerful, majestic trees when we race to the next achievement. Are we so rigidly focussed on our life path where our awareness is pulled towards either being faster or better than others, resulting in an overstressed, lonely, unhealthy and unhappy us? Sometimes we feel lost and we give up. Don’t! Life is there to live. So start getting involved in your own life (for you) by listening to your needs and ignite self-love. Having a bucket list can do just that!

When we die, we kick the bucket. This is where the expression “Bucket List” comes from. Listing things that you will do before you “kick the bucket”. You can write anything you want to do before you die, almost like a checklist and as you do the things, you tick it off. We live in a wonderful world of technology that makes life not just interesting but also easy. This website Bucket List and add your bucket list are great tools where you can join the bucket list communities.

Check it out and join the tribe of living life to the fullest!

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