Disappointment

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Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations. It is similar to regret which focuses primarily on personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself.

Recently I experienced major disappointment accompanied by loss and a heavy heart.  After a few months of hearth ache and suffering, I said, ‘enough’! I read a few articles and quotes online, I analysed my situation and found the root of my disappointment: I made this person into my soulmate. All these years, I subconsciously created expectations of him and even branded him as ‘the one’. Unfortunately the soulmate turned out to be somebody else. I then blamed him for my disappointment which led me into a world of pain and frustration, denial and you name it.

The story continues… I got to understand that behind all my disappointments are my own desires, only I can fulfil. These desires are within me, I need to acknowledge them and make them conscious. How do I do that? By taking the time to listen to my needs and writing them down. Taking a stand to own them and turn them into reality.

Our disappointments strengthen our humanity and we are responsible for our own changes and results in our lives. Blaming someone else for our disappointments are weak, wrong and very painful. Taking the responsibility to own our disappointments and forgive those who have hurt us including ourselves, will release us and others from our pain.

After all, it was me who created that expectation of someone to fulfil my needs! How silly of me 😉

It’s a Poor Idea to Lie to Yourself

When you make a false statement with a deliberate intent to deceive, that is when you lie. You plant a tiny seed of deception that will manifest some way or another in your life and usually accompanied by suffering and pain.

When you lie to someone you automatically lie to yourself. At a recent party, I lied to a stranger about who I was. The next day I felt immense guilt from my poor actions.Why did I do that? Too much alcohol? After feeling sorry for myself, I looked at the reasons why I lied.

The root of the problem: ‘I was not proud of myself.’ This made me very sad and insecure. A couple of days later, I made the effort to really get to know myself by enrolling in a weekend workshop. The results were amazing!

The act of lying and its consequences are inevitable. It will catch up with you if you don’t make amends now.  Lying equals not trusting and loving yourself enough, to tell the truth. 

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The Sound of One Hand Clapping

The sound of one hand clapping is the same as the sound of two hands clapping!

The concept of clapping means that when two surfaces come into contact with one another it creates a sound. This can happen even if only one surface is moving. When there is no movement, there is no contact and there is no sound. One hand can make such a movement.

But what does this all means? It means that everything’s connected in some way or another. Everything is in relationship to everything else, interdependent. If the one change, the other one will experience change too. If only one hand moves towards a motionless hand, a clapping sound will be produced. And there will be an applause of some kind!

Should we want change in our lives, we don’t have to wait for something to happen. We don’t have to wait for that perfect someone to turn us into princes and princesses and we certainly don’t have to wait for any object or place to give us that perfect life or feeling.

We can and will experience results if we move or act in a certain way and change will happen. If you want positive change, you will experience positive results and vice versa (karma). There are no excuses and definitely something to think about 😉

”Be the change you want to see in your life” Mahatma Ghandi 

What Do You Choose…Life or Death

The idea of writing about death made me quite uncomfortable. The problem around death is not the ignorance but its: UNPREPAREDNESS

Unfortunately most societies are oblivious about the dying process and how we can live with self acceptance, awareness and peace around our own death. Will we become fearless once we accept death? We are aware that society controls us and at the same time we are conscious of our own power and our beautiful, innate qualities. Unfortunately most of us are ignorant of our own power. Something is preventing us from living our full potential, living our ‘Natural Self’. What is that saying of us as human beings?

Religion has taken this job of teaching us about death, our true nature and what lies beyond. If death is such a natural process, then why do we need religion to tell us what will happen? Why can’t our communities prepare and inform us through means of education, workshops, Tv programmes? We can then easily accept our dying process and live with it naturally.

Today, I have accepted my death. What created this realisation? I finally understood ‘impermanence’ and who I am. I wish that my society taught me that. I had to wait many years to find out that I am not this body, I have this body and this speech.  Truth is, now I have this life to live and I am grabbing it with both hands. I am indeed thrilled to experience this wonderful gift from the universe that I am part of, we are all part of.

I choose life equals I choose death. What do you choose?

Not all who wander are lost….

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Are you one of those who judge others who live life slightly different from what society tells us? Are you jealous someone else is living a life you are too scared to live? Can it be that you fear change…What keeps you from living your full potential?

We live in a competitive society and it drains us, stresses us and turns us all into nodding, winding puppets. We need to achieve, meet expectation, compete, succeed and collect as much money as possible, before we die… I say: stop!

Live your life now. One life, so get lost and wander. This is our chance now. Let’s create a new way of living and ditch the traditional, controlled lifestyle. Lets be original and true to ourselves, whatever it is. Your way is not my way, but living your truth is priceless.

Knowing all will be well, is the key to trusting yourself and the universe. I am living that now, finally! So join me, on a ‘lost’ journey of true happiness  and authenticity 🙂

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